How to get more of what you want part 3: being specific

Bennie Naude

Imagine that you are given a room with blank walls, and given all the colours of paint that exist, and given permission to paint the walls any colours you want. Imagine that in addition, you are encouraged to pick the colour or colours you like, regardless of what other people may think, and that, if you did not like the end result, you could repaint the walls as many times as you wish, until you liked it.

by Bennie Naudé

Well, what if life was exactly like that?

What if you were not a bystander to life, but were actually creating your experience, moment by moment?

In Part 2 you learned about the importance of knowing what you want. Now we’re taking this a step further and digging into starting to get specific about exactly what you want.

Imagine walking into a car dealership and asking them for a car. When asked what car you’d like, you’re unlikely to say ‘Oh well, one with wheels, you know, that can get me from A to B’.

You probably also do not walk into a restaurant and ask them to bring you ‘whatever’!

Yet that’s how a lot of people live their lives, not quite sure what they want yet somehow surprised when they don’t get it!

Isn’t it true that the more specific you can be, saying you want a blue one, with leather seats, and power steering, and a sunroof, and automatic transmission – the better the chances are that you’ll actually get the car you want?

Life is the same.

You could think that you’d like to live in a nice house; being specific means you’ll know how many bedrooms it has, what the roof and the garden and the windows look like, and if it’s next to a river or overlooks he sea or the city.

You could think that you’d like to be in a nice relationship. Being specific means you’ll know what the other personal will be like, for example patient, fun, soulful, or whatever things are important to you in a partner. And more importantly, and we’ll talk about more about this later in the series, how would you want to feel in the relationship? Loved, safe, happy?

You could want a nice career. Being specific means you’ll know what your ideal day is like; who would be be working with, what would your workplace be like, how would you feel about it when you woke up in the morning or go to bed at night.


The more specific you are about exactly how you’d like your life to be, the better the chances are that you’ll create it so.

To exponentially enhance the possibility of creating your life the way you want, write down your ideal life in terms of:

  • Personal well-being, relationships and friendships)
  • Health & vitality
  • Career
  • Wealth
  • Home

Whenever limitations come up, the only question to ask yourself is if you could choose ANYTHING and ANYTHING was possible, what would you choose?


3 x on the karate chop point: Even though I didn’t think that I could really choose what I want in my life, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Tapping through all the points:

  • I didn’t know I could choose
  • I didn’t know that the more specific I was about what I wanted, the more likely I was to get it!
  • I choose to be very clear on what I want
  • Exactly what I want
  • Because I deserve it
  • And because it is by getting clear on what I want that I start creating it
  • What if it really was up to me to choose?
  • Allowing myself to get clear on what I want
  • What sort of relationships do I want?
  • What sort of friends do I want?
  • How much money do I want?
  • How healthy do I want to be?
  • How would I love to spend my time?
  • Where would I love to live?
  • What sort of work would I love to do?
  • What am I really passionate about?
  • Allowing myself to get very clear on what I want
  • So that the universe knows what to bring me
  • Allowing myself to open up to more than I think I deserve

And now I’d like to invite you to get your free instant access to a two-hour teleseminar on How to Create Wealth from the Inside Out when you visit You’ll receive 2 hours of leading edge wealth-creation strategies, right there, on the call!

See you there!

Bennie Naudé

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