EmotionalBuzz
the resource for meridian energy therapy
Resistance, the energy of resistance and the need for resistance and weight
Cherry blossoms, warm (ish) sunny days and calls from clients who want to look and feel good in a swimming costume have got me writing this. Sometimes working with body projects is similar to working with resistance to acceptance, healing and/or change. I have found that working with the energy of resistance opens many doors. Some of my clients have even put on body weight when processing weighty issues before their weight stabilised and then started dissolving, releasing and clearing. What I found was that there can be very strong resistances, and anchors in the body and mind that hold onto the weight or project almost in fear of death. The notion of resistance is not new to energy psychology. Most if not all energy therapy practitioners know that resistance can show up in many many ways.
by Ranjana Appoo
I like to give my clients who want to work with any project the following liberating sequence between our preliminary sessions, to help unravel or soften the resistance that can show up as a wall along the way. I also ask all my EFT Level 3 students to use this process for a week or so as it helps them meet resistance in themselves and their clients with deep compassion and understanding.
We all have infinite gifts of wisdom and joy. Imagine spending your life unwrapping them, every day opening a ‘present’ of discovery, innate serenity, a sweet embrace of precious knowing ... imagine feeling that you are truly worthy, deserving and blessed ... imagine knowing every time resistance shows up you can be present with it in complete awareness and experience the lightness of being all that you are.
The results as always speak for themselves. The most noticeable result is the awareness (the aha) of resistance, and the understanding of hidden fears that creates the need for resistance. I have discovered that the reason resistance works so well is that most of the time we seem to be unconscious of it and our lack of awareness keeps resistance in place. I know I always feel lighter after using this. You can play with this once a day for 7 to 10 days.
Set up phrase to be repeated while stimulating the back of the head or by gently stimulating the thymus area: “Even though I feel stuck, heavy, blocked and unhappy with my body (life), I am willing to release the pattern with me – whatever it may be, that is creating this condition. I deeply and completely accept all of me.”
1st round of touch or percussive stimulation with the reminder phrase: “I feel (fill in the blank with your words).”
2nd round of touch or percussive stimulation with the reminder phrase: “I am willing to release the pattern with me – whatever it may be, that is creating this condition.”
Next set up phrase, to be repeated while stimulating the back of the head or by gently stimulating the thymus area or by bilateral tapping: “Even though my body (mind) is resisting me, I am resisting feeling good, and my thoughts about my body (my life) hurts, I am willing to release the Need for the Resistance I deeply and completely accept all of me.”
1st round of touch or percussive stimulation with the reminder phrase: “This resistance, this energy of resistance.”
2nd round of touch or percussive stimulation with the reminder phrase: “I am willing to release the need for the resistance.”
3rd round of touch or percussive stimulation with the reminder phrase: “I open my heart to all my resistance; I choose to understand this pattern within me, exhaling conflict and confusion I inhale lightness, healing and peace.”
At some stage, in this journey to better physical health, we can touch (tap) on: “I open myself to all the ways I may have created this, and I am willing to release the pattern in my consciousness that is responsible for this condition. I now choose to use my power consciously. I deeply and completely accept all of me.”
When I meet resistance with loving awareness it feels like I open a door of possibility. I invite you to get to know resistance and its many guises. For me resistance is now a gift, it is simply energy, an experience of attachment to a story of fear simply waiting to come into the light.
Once resistance is brought into your awareness it is easier to heal the reasons that keep the body too fat, too thin, heavy, weighty, inflexible etc. and your ability to live life with openness can grow.
Below is a list of the common issues I have encountered with weight projects. I hope you find it useful.
If you find more reasons can you please email me (address at foot of this page) so that I can add it to this list. I always remind my clients that all body projects or weight projects did not appear overnight, it was a gradual process and the body appreciates our respect and support while it finds graceful balance and harmony.
- Protection: our body hangs onto weight when it thinks we need protection from something or someone. It might store fat to keep us safe from threats or intimidation
- Habit: sometimes we just have a habit of feeling we are fat and our body settles into this image
- Ancestral starvation memories, this can show up as feelings of uneasiness when the fridge or larder is empty
- Comfort. Sometimes our body needs the comfort the extra padding brings
- Hiding: for some this is a great place to hide, behind a wall of fat
- Organ trauma: we store trauma in our organs and extra cushioning sometimes make them feel safer
- Fear: of what will happen if you are slim? The consequences, unwanted attention ... disastrous consequences, death ... fear of what others may say or think
- Memories: of hunger in the cells that has been caused by dieting experiences or trauma. The body requires reassurance that there is no actual danger or famine
- Childhood deprivation (love, food, nurturing): this can be the root of many weight issues
- Food allergies: we seem to crave the very thing that is fattening
- Storing fear, guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, resentment, sadness, hurt, betrayal, unhappiness and other feelings of conflict that feel painful as weighty accumulation
- Some carry the weight to feel grounded, to be grounded in the physical
- Need to be ‘Cuddly’, ‘Loveable’ (be mother)
- Belief systems about fat people (for example, ugly, greedy), belief systems about thin people (for example, wiry, strict, unloving)
- Denial: this is incredibly common. Facing and owning the body and mind’s present condition can be very painful and stressful
- Taking on other people’s burdens and not letting go. This can pile up as accumulation and tends to happen because of guilt about loving oneself
- Unable to express: accumulation shows up here as undigested hurt, all the unexpressed, repressed (suppressed) emotion can turn into weight
- Hormonal imbalance and issues around sexuality
- The most common reason I encounter is fat/heavy thinking and a lack of SELF love
- Arguing with reality: conflict can keep unwanted accumulation stuck. ‘What you resist persists’, which takes us right back to the start of this article.
I hope this lightens your load.
Ranjana Appoo
The Emotional Health Centre
Co-creator of LiberatingTouch and The Emotional Toothbrush Series
Email: 
Ranjana will be facilitating a new workshop on Intentional Energy Healing on July 23 and 24 2011. Visit Loving the World, Serving the World, Healing the World for more details and to register.