Opening to love with EFT

“Opening to love is what inevitably happens as we release our negative energy - all that guilt, anger, resentment, pain. It is also the means by which this happens; and so it is the ends and the means, the beginning and the end.”

It’s hard to imagine life without EFT now. Discovering it has already changed so many people’s lives, opening up whole new ways of living and relating to one another, and the world; and because of it we have extended the boundaries of what we believe is possible. Where is this taking us? Now we have the means to make things possible that were previously only a fancy, a glimpse, an esoteric secret known to a few. Whatever you can conceive of you can create, the only limits are your willingness to continually see further, to acknowledge and release the blocks between yourself and your true power.

Its curious how something as apparently simple as EFT works.

The basics are very important: when we first learn we are encouraged to say out loud (whether we believe it or not) “I deeply and completely love and accept myself”, alongside the negative statement that describes the problem. In other words, we hold in our minds these opposites. Why does that work so often even though we don’t believe it? Could it perhaps be because at a deeper level we do believe it, it is the truth and briefly (psychological reversal comes and goes), we are in alignment with that?

Perhaps, however fleetingly, when we say these words we access universal intelligence, the truth taught by spiritual sages down through the years, that transcends our limited fixed ideas about who we are.

If you want to supercharge your work on yourself just be open to the possibility that you really are not who you think - you are so much more than that. The energy of love recognises your true reality beyond the limits of body, time and space and all your thoughts. When we bring the darkness - “this problem” - to the light, whether or not we believe what we are saying, so often something happens, that we are inevitably presented with the possibility that there must be another level of mind that is operating, and more powerful than our conscious awareness.

It is as if the words resonate unconsciously and remind us who we really are, opening a portal to love which is the reality that transcends normal awareness and allows us to heal.

The question is - what happens if we begin to be more conscious about this? Taking the phrase “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” further? Begin to cultivate the awareness that every time you use EFT for yourself, or another, you are doing something very important, something sacred. If you are a practitioner be aware that holding that intention for your client’s healing, especially if they are weary, disillusioned and feel as if they have tried everything, may be the most helpful thing you do. Where there is suffering we have lost sight of love, we are out of alignment with our truth (another way of describing Psychological Reversal) and we need someone to see beyond our limited self-perception for us.

So what do we know about Psychological Reversal? The fact is nobody knows what it is for sure, we just have some ways of describing what appears to happen. I find it useful to keep remembering that its not a thing in its own right, rather an observation of a process. It is not, and can never be, a statement of identity - as in “I am psychologically reversed”. It is a process of interference created by our own thoughts and/or responses and relationship to our environment. In other words, it is something we do (rather than have or be).

We know some useful metaphors to describe it. It is AS IF we have our batteries in the wrong way round, giving rise to a situation where there is a literal polarity reversal of our energy system against ourselves, and the tapping will not work. Our thoughts, both conscious and unconscious are the batteries, and they can work for us and against us. Actually PR can be there, or not, as quickly as we change the way we see things, change our minds. What if we were more aware of what has to happen for it NOT to be there? What do we need to realign ourselves with and how do we do this?

The ֹI’ who experiences the problem is not the self for whom the words “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” are forever true. When we are stuck we think that small ‘I’ is all we are, we have forgotten the sun is always there behind the clouds whether we can see it or not. We have turned against ourselves and there is interference to our true power, our connection to love.

We have ways to get beyond this interference. Often simply saying the Set Up more emphatically - shouting it if necessary, will do the trick. We also know that sometimes drinking water will restore the flow. Another way is to break down PR into more specific thought forms, for example:

“Even if I never get over this problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway”.
“Even if I don’t deserve to get over this problem...”
“Even if I won’t/can’t do what I need to...”
“Even if it’s not safe for me/not safe for others...”

However we describe it getting beyond our blocks and self sabotaging strategies is about opening to love. Love heals. It is the antidote to fear.

Opening to love is about experiencing ways to get beyond fear in its many forms, developing our abilities to be more consciously able to switch our minds and align ourselves with our healing power. From this place our hearts sing and our work with EFT has even more elegance and ease and joy. Perhaps psychological reversal is simply fear of love, and although it takes many forms it has no real substance because ultimately, although we do a great job trying, we can not get away from the eternal truth that love is who we are, and simply awaits our recognition. And I believe there is a glimpse of recognition every time we set our intention through our thoughts or words such as “I deeply and completely love and accept myself”. When we are stuck we are unconsciously identified with ourselves at a bodily level, at the level of suffering and pain and limitation. When we are in alignment with our reality as spirit, whether we are aware of it or even believe in it or not, healing happens. If you think about your own experience of healing you may recognise feeling lighter, more loving, forgiving, peaceful - qualities that transcend the awareness of our limited, isolated, separate selves.

The sense that we are more than this (isolated, separate, individual experience) comes to all of us eventually. We may grow up with a vague sense of it, or have been painfully aware of feeling like the odd one out, somehow different, misunderstood, not at home.

Or it may come to us as we work on our selves, as we erase the writing on our walls. We may come so far and then find an almighty road block in the way, whatever we are doing - all those books we have read, all those affirmations, all that tapping - just doesn’t really seem to be working (“I must be massively reversed!!!”) We are just not getting in to those other rooms in our Palace Of Possibilities.

“My consistent thoughts become my reality.”

This is possibly the most fundamental rule in psychotherapy and is foundational to the concept of the Palace of Possibilities. The following quotes illustrate this.

From the Bible: ‘As a man thinketh, in his heart so is he.’

From Ralph Waldo Emerson: ‘As a man thinketh, so he becomes.’

From A Course In Miracles: ‘The world you see is what you gave it, nothing more than that. But though it is no more than that, it is not less. Therefore, to you it is important. It is the witness to your state of mind, the outside picture of an inward condition. As a man thinketh, so does he perceive.’

The main goal of psychotherapy has always been to help clients change their negative mindsets and beliefs in order to move forward. EFT is simply a quicker, more elegant way of doing this. When you remove the emotional intensity surrounding trauma, fear, guilt or grief, the client’s reality shifts and they gain the emotional freedom to move beyond their old limitations.

Many clients are unaware of The Palace of Possibilities in which they live because they dwell in their own personal dungeons amidst their thoughts of past abuses, war memories, fear or guilt. Their consistent thoughts have become their reality and, when they walk into your office, they bring their dungeons with them. The writing on their walls provides graphic evidence of their personal guilt, shame, etc. and IT IS WRITTEN IN CAPITAL LETTERS. There is other writing, some of a more positive nature, there too. However, it is overwhelmed by those capital letters. Those capital letters become the focus of their thinking, the centerpiece of their existence. They have become lifetime ‘limits’ and will continue as such until that writing is erased and replaced.

We constantly consult the Writing on our Walls. And the most prominently written words become our consistent thoughts, and therefore our reality. Changing our consistent thoughts automatically changes our reality.

Everyone will come to a point of emerging awareness regarding their self perception, and this may or may not coincide with the road block, or enormous sense of stuckness and possibly hopelessness. This is where we have the opportunity to really take the next step with EFT. This is where although it may feel uncomfortable we are ready for the next piece - changing our thoughts requires us to take a giant leap regarding the nature of reality.

Opening to love is all about going further with EFT (wherever you are now), daring to dream and living life purposefully. It is about using EFT beyond fixing problems, towards our dreams and on to self or spiritual realisation. It’s about opening to true power. It is about discovering that love and true power are the same thing.

What is your dream? - sport, business, relationships, science, health, simply living with kindness and compassion? When we are aligned with Love we cannot help but succeed, whatever the form our dream may take.

In The EFT Centre’s three-day workshop of the same name, our intention is to discover and develop practical ways to connect with ourselves on this level, to set up a communication link, which ultimately will lead us all the way home.

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